Learn and forget!

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Forgetting is an unwelcome factor in learning. We’d love to stick knowledge permanently in our mind and pick it at convenience. Alas, human brain works differently.

The hyppocampi are neural structures in our central nervous system that, said simplistically, select what to remember. The hippocampus is responsible for the short-term memory. Information does not pass the test of time to become indelible, rather a cerebral one. And since we cannot employ the same amount of focus and energy in everything we learn, forgetting becomes a natural part of learning.

Or rather, it has always been like that. It is not just that we forget things, sometimes we also want to forget them. That is one way we tend to deal with trauma, unpleasant events, and all boring stuff.

Surprisingly, the process of forgetting might become useful for the purpose of learning. This is something that I have learnt myself, because of my passion for martial arts. Eastern philosophies seem to appreciate the power we can harness from forgetfulness when applied in the right context.

In this article I want to share some martial art wisdom that I have applied in any learning for many years. The following can be considered almost universal principles, however I shall leave a word of caution: what we are going to discuss is not the conventional forgetfulness. It is a subtle, induced form of it.

Learn and Forget! Learn and forget!

Morihei Ueshiba, founder of aikido. Photography.
Morihei Ueshiba

Morihei Ueshiba (1883 – 1969) was the founder of aikido. The philosophy reflected in the discipline he devoted his life to, seems to have been triggered by three epiphanic episodes. Along with the martial arts practice, Ueshiba used to write poems and aphorisms that you can read in a recent edited collection. I learned much about Ueshiba’s philosophy through his writing.

Whereas most of the poems are of spiritual entity, I came to appreciate their usefulness in the matter of learning. The one that I will never forget is precisely to “learn and forget”. My interpretation of these words is influenced by the fact that I am also an amateur martial artists.

I practiced Karate and Tae Kwon Do, and I studied Wing Chun Gong Fu, which I currently incorporate in my workouts (you can read it here). In martial arts we study techniques and patterns (also called forms), but these are just ideal representations and therefore, as the name suggests, technical. Their application in real scenarios is much different. Broadly speaking, forms are the codification of a style: a teaching/learning method.

We experience the same in real life. We study many years to become experts in a field, but on the day one of the job we discover how much we do not know (yet). In our mind, we have a picture that does not reflect the reality. Thus we need to learn how to use what we got for the sake of the job, and to demonstrate to ourselves how competent we are.

This form of “forgetting” is actually “relearning”: we bring ideal concepts and theories to real context. It is indeed the first step to mastery.

Be water, my friend

It is one of the most famous quotes of Bruce Lee. Everybody knows that. Little one might think that it is not just about training. These words are the best way to describe adaptation.

Let’s take it into the context. In 1959 Lee, who was 19 y.o. at that time, left Hong Kong and moved to San Francisco (USA). By the age of 24, he was already developing the Jun Fan Gong Fu, better known later as Jeet Kune Do. The popularity of this style comes from using no form, contrary to traditional chinese boxing. (I read about it in this and this book).

What does that say us? Lee came to live in the country then involved in the Vietnam War (1955-1975), which fueled already existing prejudices towards Asian immigrants, as part of the non-white population. Second, Lee also had to deal with preconceptions of the other Gong Fu masters living in America, who not only refuted to teach non-Chinese people, but also praised tradition to the point of sacrificing innovation. We can infer that, prior to become a movie superstar and world renowned martial artist, Lee’s life wasn’t easy at all; yet he endured to become the best in his field, against all the odds.

It is an amazing life lesson. Lee started as a traditional Gong Fu practitioner, but went as far as consolidating multiple discipline in a unique method and philosophy. That was possible by eviscerating the essence of skills from their paradigms, and fighting bias with meticulous practice, study and a multidisciplinary approach. Call it growth mindset if you like: “forgetting” unnecessary roots to find purposeful new ones, and give new value to what we have learned. No learning is ever wasted.

Shuhari (守破離)

Shuhari roughly translastes to “to keep, to fall, to break away” (source: Wikipedia). It is a concept that I actually learned at work. It has to do more with Japanese culture than with martial arts, but either way, it is the latter to have been influenced by the former.

I ought to describe the Shuhari way as a learning best practice, by breaking it down in three stages.

SHU: it is the phase where we learn from another source. We must follow a paradigm in order to get the basics. In martial arts, it is where we are corrected by our masters in our movement, stances and positions. In life, it is the stage where we go through training and we know nothing. Yet, it is also a stage where we have unconscious incompetence: we don’t know that we don’t know. Soon we realize our ignorance, shifting to conscious incompetence. It can be overwhelming but it also puts us on the right way.

HA: it is the stage where we acquire a certain level of knowledge or skill. Using Karate or Taekwondo as analogy, this is the stage where a practitioner receives the black belt. And that is not the ultimate goal: it is the real beginning. Now we know something, and eventually we can pass the knowledge over. It is also a time where we build confidence. Like when we cooked something following a recipe so many times that we feel comfortable not looking into the cookbook anymore.

RI: when we internalized the knowledge to the point that we do not follow any pattern: experience and intuition are driving us rather than the rulebook and the technique became a second nature. We are shifting towards mastery, and we can create value by adjusting what we know to any situation, unconsciously.

That’s right: we “forget” the guidelines, for we have become the guideline.


There is much more wisdom I’d like to share, but then it would take an hour to read this article. The message I want to share is to understand the meaning of “forgetfulness” as a way to loose mental constrains, assumptions and even structures when necessary. That is for passion or for necessity, we can find more meaning in learning than the skill itself.

All it takes is the right mindset; and apparently, modern psychology supports what the holistic approach of martial arts has to offer to everyday’s tasks.

Published by Andrea Paviglianiti

I practice coaching, I love reading, and I work as a data scientist. I also recharge my batteries with meditation, martial arts, and video games. I perform career and skills coaching – thus I define myself as a “cognitive” coach: I help people improve their learning experience to succeed where they want. My method is based on behavioral analysis, psychology of learning, philosophy of dialogue, and classic literature. I write about how to get better at learning, the best books I read, and my personal philosophy of coaching. And I will not lie to you – I can get verbose at times! I’d be happy if you stick around and read more of what I have to share!

5 thoughts on “Learn and forget!

  1. Hi.Thanks a lot for your text! I have studied aikido for some time,shodan at the end, starting quite lately at more than forty.I remember this principle well and I have followed it so deeply that I completely forgot where I had met it.Yes, it had to be Osensei’s thoughts.And why I was starting my memory checking.After quite heavy devastation due to two covid infections I am looking for some ways how to restore my health.Although I have quit with active aikido some time ago, it is still an integral part of myself.During my study I have participated regularly on Tada Sensei summer schools of aikido in Switzerland.I have realized some of his thoughts on power of various solo exercises (breathing, moving) in recovery after serious illnesses, so I have started to do what I remember and know.Together with this I have immediatelly started to think also about the background and memory I have (now I am almost sixty).And, back to the beginninig,I have asked myself – where this thought (learn and forget) came from.It is a deep practical thruth, but not when you then need to remember its origin when you need it :))).So dozo arigato gozaimasu and good luck! David


    1. Hi David, I relate to your story in the way that my reason for practicing and embodying martial arts (Wing Chun, in my case) got lost and found many times.

      I began with the extrinsic motivation that I can be fit, ready for everything, and protect my loved ones. But this motivation kept me off the gym sometimes, it was because I had “more important” things to do. Yet, I never stopped thinking about it for a moment, and sometimes I even had dreams of training. I realized that there was something deeper that kept my thoughts in direction of Wing Chun, and they do still today.

      I found my real motivation in this: the need to align myself as one to overcome anything in life; embrace changes and go with them, using difficulties as the source of transformations. Keep evolving. Finding the ultimate balance between the Self and the universe.
      As of today, this is my preferred healing process to deal with challenging times: breathing, meditating and moving.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, and never stop practicing!


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